What’s the reason for me sharing this story ? to raise awareness. Here’s the heartbreaking reason I started my business …
In December 2012 I gave birth to my second daughter, she was unplanned and now looking back on things she is the reason I turned my life around. I was a single mum of a gorgeous 5-year-old, I now found myself with a beautiful tiny newborn to also provide for. I was determined to stay in my job while I provided for them both and after 6 months of maternity leave I returned to work – man was it hard and I was shattered every single day but I wanted to show my daughters that they should work hard for what they want. Had it not been for the help of my amazing mum and dad – who were the king & queen of school runs I would have been so stuck!
Fast forward 5 years and I met Steve, our first date was in a local pub and I think we both knew after that date that we would be seeing a lot of each other! After 6 months we moved in together, after a year we brought our first family home together and a month later we discovered that I was pregnant. Having 3 children between us already was amazing but to have one of our own was a dream!
At the beginning of March 2018, I started to notice that something just didn’t feel right with the pregnancy. The doctors told us that it was early and I was probably nothing. On the 5th March I started to notice tiny drops of blood, the doctors told us that it was too early for them to do a scan as I was just under 7 weeks. On the 6th March, I was in pain not in my stomach but in my shoulder – this seemed so strange but I thought nothing of it. That evening I spoke to the doctor on the phone again and after some persuasion, she managed to get me a scan appointment at Chesterfield hospital the next day.
I remember walking up to the hospital and seeing a lady who looked full term standing outside the hospital in her gown smoking – I just remember thinking how unfair it was that she was fine and putting her baby at risk when I was in pain.
As we waited for the scan we were both so nervous, not knowing what we were going to be told. During the scan, the lady left the room and returned with her supervisor as she wanted something clarifying. After a bit of whispering and them coming to an agreement, it was broken to us that I was suffering an Ectopic Pregnancy. From this moment everything that happened was a blur – I was placed straight into a private room and we waited for a specialist. Around 6 people descended on the room after about 10 minutes and 10 minutes later I was being told that I needed emergency surgery. My left Fallopian tube had ruptured and had I not been in the hospital on that day for the scan I would have suffered internal bleeding, eventually passed out somewhere & could have been of risk of dying.
Even though I had keyhole surgery the pain I was in when I woke up was excruciating, after having 2 daughters with no pain relief I was well aware of what pain felt like! As my Fallopian tube had ruptured they had to remove it. I spent a total of 3 days in the hospital, with a further 3 weeks at home recovering. Not only was the recovery physical but it was emotional – the emotional pain took way longer to recover from.
On the 30th of March 2018, I handed in my notice to my job of 13 years. This was such a hard decision to make, luckily I had the support of Steve. The whole process of the last few months made me realize that life was too short to not pursue something that you want to do, its too short to not spend as much time with your family as possible.
What’s the reason for me sharing this story? Raising Awareness of Ectopic Pregnancy. I want any other woman out there who are pregnant who know in themselves that something is wrong to not stop calling the doctor until something is done! If I had not put so much pressure on the doctor I may not be sat here writing this now …
Here are a list of symptoms as provided on the NHS website
To find out more about Eptopic Pregancy visit “The Eptopic Pregnancy Trust”